How has a provider, or hobbyist exceeded your expectations?
For example, one is where we make a connection after the bedroom activities have ended and let the time go over as we enjoy conversation and perhaps even an invitation for dining out. One or two gals even said that as they have no more appointments that day, why don't I just stay the night with them. One even put it quite charmingly: "You're not going to make me sleep alone tonight, are you?" (This is, admittedly rare.)
Another way is when I ask a gal to massage me, and the massage is way better than the usual. They put their heart and soul into it, and it does show.
Then there is the occasional gift from a gal (Obviously those I've know a long time.) One of these was a lovely leather overnight bag that I had gotten a lot of use out of.
There are more, I'm sure, but these are what come to mind off the top of my head.
such as service (going beyond her profile and reviews, e.g. BBBJ instead of CBJ) and appearance (including one woman who looked like Emily Stone), there was one provider who not only gave me the hottest, most sensual first-time “hello” I’ve ever had, but at the end of our first meeting gave me a small artwork she’d made herself. Although she retired many years ago and I haven’t seen her for a few years because she moved away (we became friends), I still have that gift.
On a few, but rare occasions, the lady knowingly stayed longer than the end time of our date and stated up front she wouldn't accept any more money, accept maybe for me buying dinner. Sometimes they just hung out with me where no dinner was involved. Doing outcall, some have come early and still stayed until the end of our scheduled date.
One time there was a girl from Columbia who told me I was her last appointment and she knew no one in the city and would be lonely and asked me to stay to watch a movie and said the time would "be on her." I asked her if she wanted to go out to eat and she said she was in the mood for "American Pizza" so I went out and brought one back and spent hours with her as we ate and watched "The Wizard of Oz." lol. It was amazing.
Again, these events are rare, and I never expect them. I always appreciated those gestures and always did my best to repay those acts with repeat business or other methods of gratitude when and if I could.
I have a few experiences where a meal or just being together for longer than the appointment have occurred. They are very pleasant and lead to more often booking without expecting the additions.
If the girl does it for fun, or she is lonely or she wants to show appreciation to a client...whatever the reason, I don't really care, as I am just appreciative of the gesture and, like you said, without expectations which is essential.
Sex workers, especially escorts, don't usually have the best dating and romantic life. The profession has a stigma AND providers are usually working nights and weekends. Sometimes girls just get lonely and want to spend time with someone who won't judge them.
My expectations are what lead me to ask for a session. Having none, I would not choose to be there.
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Sometimes these expectations are not met; usually they are. I expect only the agreed-upon time, reasonable attractiveness, willingness, basic conversation, politeness.
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Sometimes my expectations are exceeded, as others have described -- extra time, extra enthusiasm, extra intelligent conversation, extra kink participation. Those make treasured memories and lead to repeats.
Do I expect sex on a p4p date? Of course. But the expectations I was suggesting that I don't have are things like off the clock time, as just one example. I never, ever, "expect" a girl will stay longer than the agree upon time. So I think we are saying the same thing, actually.
Me being a very passionate sensual cholo.., I can tell the minute we kiss what kinda night it’ll be. If she kisses me like she missed me.,, then I’m toast.
And usually those nights go into the wee hours.
A lot of women in initial meets are guarded and hesitant about showing too much affection, I get it. But those that come out of the gate… it’s a great start.
That strait is what will exceed my expectations
I always try to give extra time because I only cater to 1 lucky person on any given day. I think the kindest gesture I have received this year in 2024 is a friend that books massages for us before we depart. We have done overnights & weekend getaways, but knowing he truly cares about me is priceless. I have always spent more time because it builds bonding.
if you are having a bad day, only ONE person gets shit on, but unfortunately, he must alone bear the full brunt of whatever your problem is that day. One customer a day has both it's good and bad sides.
Like MrFisher mentioned , you build a bond with a provider that extend beyond the ordinary dates. Then there is gift giving, discounted overnights stays, she will even travel distances to see you , even sometimes when she is experiences personal circumstances. You in turn care about her and her personal issue as well. So yes, can be nice when you met someone genuine.