I have a question about safe procedures -
Take this scenario for example -
A girl walks into the room. She sits down, chats with the guy for a about 30 minutes about life and work, then they get naked and have sex. She gets dressed and walks by the table where an envelope with money in it is laying. She takes the money, says goodnight and leaves.
Legally, is this any better than the girl getting paid up front?
A lot of posts that I have read where LE is conducting a sting says the girl took the money after the guy says what he wants, and they bust in and arrest her.
the fact that money was talked about is all that they need. Some cops will make a big deal about the money by saying really loud "I'm putting your money on the table" some others won't but yet you had already quoted a price.
Essentially it makes no difference whether you pay up front or afterwards. If it is a sting - you will be stung. It also makes no difference if you call it a "gift" (like Enjolie does), or a "donation". If you are exchanging money for sex anyhow, anytime or anyway you are guilty of prostitution. The risk is always there.
To try to avoid the association (and the causal link) between money and sex required for a successful prosecution in a sting, some people transfer the money at a totally different time from the date. Then when they actually meet up, no money changes hands.
I can see how girls with regular clients might successfully set up such a "GFE" system, e.g., you send your girl $1000 today as a gift simply because you are friends and you like her, and you do not expect anything in return. Then in a month's time you call up to arrange a date, and you meet and if it ends up with sex, so much the better, but no money is changing hands now, nor is money ever discussed. In this kind of scenario, money is passed to someone you like with no sexual strings attached, and at a later date she has sex with someone she likes, with no financial strings attached.
Of course in this kind of scenario you are essentially still guilty of prostitution - all you have done is lower the risks of prosecution. Besides, this kind of scheme would only work between people who really trusted each other, and would be unlikely to work for first dates.
I also don't think it is a very effective defense for girls to say "the money is for my time only." and then claim that they got "attracted" to their date and so it ended in sex which was unplanned. Whenever money and sex change hands in the same location at the same time, the risk is always going to be there.
Sincerely
Alpha-Dog
you take the money or if you even take it at all. In most states, you must agree to exchange sex for money... in other states, that point only needs to be implied.
Getting busted with the money in your hands just strengthens a state's attorney's case... it doesn't make or break it.